Wednesday Hodgepodge and Living Strong

 1. Do you (or did you used to) watch talk shows? 

Seldom. When I was in high school, I thought it was fun to stay up late and watch Johnny Carson. Talk shows are boring as most of the time it’s a celebrity very focused on themselves.

Which are or were your favorite?

I have enjoyed listening to some talk shows such as James Dobson‘s focus on the family.

 2. Would you describe yourself as resilient? 

Yes, I believe I am very resilient. I have experienced the loss of two husbands, breast cancer, going through bone marrow transplant with my brother, (me the donor), the loss of both my parents at young ages, and adjusting to being a stepmom. They were two of the best kids ever, but it still was a big adjustment. If so what do you think makes you that way? It is only by the grace of God that I have had strength. I have none on my own. If you answered no explain why?

 3. What parts of life have surprised you the most? 

That I am still here? Having lost my parents at younger ages, I guess it surprises me sometimes that I have made it to an older age. Explain.

 4. Why do you live where you live? 

After 50 years of living in one state, I moved to another to be near my siblings.

 5. A memory from this week that made you smile? 

Most every day, the Facebook memories that pop up make me smile because I have so many good memories. Any time I look at a picture on the refrigerator of my Dear Heart, or the grandkids, it always brings a smile.

 

(Noah had been smiling until word came we would take a pic!! There's always one sad sack in the bunch! The pic below of my sister's party is evidence of that. I was the pouty one and she was crying! Makes me think of the song that came much later, It's My Party and I'll Cry if I Want To!)

Today’s memory on Facebook was a throwback Thursday of my sister's birthday. Just this weekend, we also gathered together to say happy birthday to her. She turned the big 70, but she didn't cry about it.

 6. Insert your own random thought here.

This has been a very busy week. Over the weekend, some of us from our Sunday school class picked up paintbrushes and rollers and painted curbs for emergency vehicles and delivery vehicles, as well as a shuffleboard court for a local apartment complex. The apartment building houses disabled persons over 62 years old. These pics don't show the extent of the amount of painting! Whole lotta curbs!!!

This morning I’m working on the garage sale for the boys home in our area. The garage sale will benefit the boys home. And tonight is Awanas’ night, so it’s a full day all day.

Our ukelele group is singing again today. We are singing on a regular basis at one of the assisted living homes here and it is so much fun. Our practices each week are filled with singing and lots of laughter. We have been invited to sing a few days before Christmas at a residence for senior citizens in a Jewish assisted living. The dilemma there is that we have been asked not to sing anything about Jesus so as not to offend anyone. We don’t like that idea. Anyone have a thought or opinion they might want to share about this? Please, be kind.

I've typed this all rather hurriedly, as I am getting ready to leave.

An Autumnal Hodgepodge

It is hard to believe we are in the Fall season and quickly approaching October!! This is my favorite time of year and one that seems to fly by faster than any other season. I want to hold on to these last few months of the year as they hold so much promise of making memories and remembrances from years past.

1. It's Fall y'all! Officially that is and in the northern hemisphere only, so if you're visiting from down under happy spring! Does it feel like fall where you live? 

Today the weather matches the season. Cool, crisp and breezy. Does it look like fall aka are the leaves beginning to change? So far I’ve only seen leaves falling, no color as yet. What is your favorite fall color? The orange, red and yellow combo. Sorry, I never can pick one. Scent? Pumpkin spice everywhere. Flavor? Is chili a wrong answer?

2. What's something you're not? Maybe trendy?

3. Share a favorite quote related to fall and tell us why it's a favorite. 

“I cannot endure to waste anything so precious as autumnal sunshine by staying in the house.” — Nathaniel Hawthorne

Because there’s nothing quite like the feel of the sunshine that doesn’t scorch and burn or bring sweat, the leaves are rustling all around, it just feels so invigorating to be outside! It’s a great time for brisk walks, and admiring the gorgeous colors that seem to grow more brilliant each day before finally giving up and landing on the ground. And that brings us to the other favorite quote, which is also a good reminder.

 “Autumn shows us how beautiful it is to let things go.” -Unknown

4. Besides Thanksgiving, what's your favorite fall meal? Beef stew and cornbread.

5. Share a favorite photo you took last fall? 

I'll try to do better this year.

6. Insert your own random thought here. 

I didn’t include this precious couple in yesterday’s photos. They are dear to me as I have gotten to know them a little better than the other couples. This precious pair comes to our exercise class almost every week. Mostly, he brings her for exercise, but he stays sometimes also. They were with Wycliffe Bible Translators, (he was a pilot, as was Nick Saint). These two are so sweet and I love the twinkle still there in both their eyes and they're always smiling. He takes good care of her. Truly another great example of love and commitment lived out to God, each other and their family. 

Weekend Recap

 Just a brief telling of this past weekend of fellowship, fun, and celebrations.

A few of our Sunday School class got together to see the production at the Spotlight Theater in Tulsa of The Drunkard. As I mentioned in a previous post, this has been a Saturday night tradition since 1953. We had a great time booing and hissing and oohing and ahhing (is that a word?) at the cast as they performed this melodrama for us. We got to buy tomatoes to throw at the villain! I was very disappointed that the tomatoes were not real!! No big splats! Haha!!

You can see the tomatoes around this villainous villain.

Sweethearts

The cast

A few from our class

On Sunday, immediately after church, we had a celebration for all our married couples of 50 years or more! What a very special time to see these sweet couples be honored for their lifetime commitments to each other. I was privileged to have a part in this preparation for them and greeting them for photographs of the happy couples. There was delicious food, beautiful music, a renewal of their vows, and door prizes. Here are just a few of the precious couples.

So you can see how pretty the tables were.

The help

Only a few of nearly 40 smiling couples celebrating.

Of all the joyous, smiling people there, one couple stood out to me and brought tears to my eyes. This elderly couple was so precious. Her Alzheimer's condition was very obvious, but even more obvious to me was the love and devotion by this gentleman living out his love for his sweetheart.

He held her up throughout the entire renewal of vows. He guided her around the room. From what I am told, this husband is always like this and he cares for her at home, too. Wow! God bless him!

The beautiful cake under the glass dome was one of several--one for each table. The cakes were beautiful and door prizes to the couple at each table who had been married the longest. The cakes were baked by a lady at church and each was decorated a little differently, but all in the gold trim. She did an excellent job.

A Heartfelt Saturday9

Saturday 9: I Left My Heart in San Francisco (1962)

1) This song is a valentine to the city of San Francisco. Songwriters George Cory and Douglas Cross moved to New York to find fame and fortune and found themselves homesick for the city by the bay. Have you ever been homesick? Or, in the parlance of the song, where have you left your heart?

Part of my heart I left in Texas with the kids. I miss them and wish I could be in two places at once!

2) Cory and Cross were buddies with Ralph Sharon, a piano player who often worked with Tony Bennett. Ralph brought the song to Tony and the results were very happy for all involved. Have you more recently done, or been on the receiving end of, a favor?

Sometimes it feels like I stay on the receiving end of favors. Being still fairly new around here, I’m asking for advice and my brother and sister-in-law are always doing things for me. And, my sister brought me lunch the other day.

3) The lyrics compare San Francisco to Paris, Rome and Manhattan. Have you visited those cities? 

Funny, I’ve never visited San Francisco, but I’ve visited Paris, Rome and Manhattan. So I can’t make a comparison.

Traveling on the Orient Express--Venice to Rome

4) This week's artist, Tony Bennett, sang professionally for the last time in August. He retired after performing at Radio City Music Hall with Lady Gaga. Their musical collaboration dates back to when they both performed at President Obama's inauguration. Though 60 years apart in age, they became fast friends based on their shared love of jazz. Do you find that most of your friends are older than you, younger than you, or within 5 years of you? My friends vary in age from much younger to older.

5) While Lady Gaga grew up listening to Tony Bennett, as a young man Tony recalled listening to Bing Crosby, Judy Garland and Joe Venuti. Which singers did you enjoy during your teen years? 

Elvis, Marvin Gaye, the Supremes, the Young Rascals, The Beach Boys.

6) While he's famous for singing about San Francisco, Tony is a proud son of New York. Born in Queens, he chose to end his career at Radio City Music Hall and was excited to perform "New York State of Mind" with Billy Joel at Shea Stadium in 2008. Do you have a favorite Billy Joel song? 

I’m not really a follower of his music, but do like Uptown Girl.

7) Tony Bennett and Frank Sinatra may have been competitors but they shared mutual admiration. Sinatra called Bennett "the best singer in the business," and Bennett did a Sinatra homage album called Perfectly Frank. Think of people you have worked with over the years. Tell us about someone who has impressed you, and why.

At my last job, I worked with a woman whom I alternately admired and who also could irritate me. She was what I consider a true servant in her job without being a doormat. Everyone knew her personality and respected her greatly even though she might appear to be hard to get along with sometimes. She knew how to set boundaries and she worked for the big picture. This wonderful lady showed great grace to me many, many times and I was truly sorry when she passed away.

8) The 1970s were a difficult period for Tony. During the days of disco and Studio 54, he said singing new songs made him feel like his mother, a talented seamstress, when she was forced to make a cheap dress. OK, so Tony doesn't like disco! Is there a genre of music you just don't care for? 

That would be rap and hard rock.

9) Random question: Imagine you're the passenger in a long car ride. Are you more likely to be calm or fidgety? 

It depends on who’s driving and maybe who else is in the car. If I feel a little nervous about their driving, I will be fidgety. It’s all about my confidence in their driving. If that’s good, I can read, sleep, or talk as we travel.

Friday Recap and a Meaningful Anniversary

It’s been a pretty full and interesting week. On Monday I attended a business meeting for the women’s association for the Tulsa boys home.   One of my friends, Kathy, is president of the association and has invited me to join. This is a wonderful organization that helps provide necessities for the boys who live at the home and has fundraisers throughout the year to raise money for them. Every penny raised and given goes directly to the Home for operating. I've made the decision to join and I’m excited to get to be part of this worthy cause. Next month, we will be having a garage sale to raise money, and then in November, there will be another fundraiser. As soon as the lockdown is lifted for visiting the home, I will be going for a tour and there will actually be a barbecue and bingo time with the boys sometime in November. We will get to meet all of them then and hear stories about their lives there. I’ve read a lot of information about them and there are many success stories from adult men who lived at the home in their youth. 

Monday night I played pickle ball again and my brother said I did really well. I’m going to try to continue each week, but still playing it cautious as I don’t want to risk any more falls. On Tuesday, I went to exercise, then over to Susan’s to practice our songs for singing at the assisted living facility on Wednesday. Tuesday night was the first night of Bible study fellowship end it looks like I have a good group again. 

On Wednesday, I had lunch with three other ladies from my church. Our ladies’ ministry at church each quarter has what is called 4 for Fellowship in which we are put together with three others to get a chance to know and make new friends. These ladies were wonderful and we had such a great time together. We plan to meet again soon. 

After lunch, I headed over to Susan‘s house to load up equipment and go to the assisted living facility and sing. It is such a joy to go there because the people love us coming so much. We sing old songs and watching their faces light up and seeing them sing along with us is really fun. There were 45 people attending  to cheer us on and, afterwards, come up to tell us how much they love us and make requests for songs in the future. One of the ladies told me that she was so tired when she came up, but our singing gave her energy back again. That really touched my heart. Wednesday evening Awanas met. Time just flies there while listening and helping these first graders learn their Bible verses and then spending 30 minutes playing active games with them. I think the games are designed to get all their energy out so they’ll be a little quieter while listening to the main Bible story.

On Thursday morning I began physical therapy for my knee and I think that’s going to go well. Then I went to Ace Hardware to buy some timers, get my car washed, and came home to just rest up and do things around the house like filing, dishes, fixing dinner, etc. 

Why am I sharing all this? As I drove around, I was thinking about the fact that life is so different now when I come home. There’s no one here to ask where I’ve been, or how things are going or just to sit down and talk. When Jay was here, it didn’t matter how trivial the things were that I did, I would share them with him. I don’t know about others, but somehow, it just seems like we want to share what we’ve been doing or what you’ve accomplished. I find myself sometimes telling my sister-in-law all these things and then stopping to say, "I’m sorry, I’m not sure why I’m boring you with all this." Haha!

Anyway, today I am planning to go buy two trees for my yard and then on Saturday evening our Sunday school class is going to attend a melodrama that’s been presented here every Saturday since 1953. It’s called The Drunkard and I attended probably in 1968, so it should be fun to see again with a group. It’s the kind of play with audience participation in that we boo the villain and cheer when the hero comes on.

Finally! Today marks a meaningful anniversary in my life when I broke free from my addiction to cigarettes and, more important, the knowledge of true freedom in God's grace. I am so thankful for that day in my life back in 1994. I shared it in the past right here.

Old Fashioned Hodgepodge

1. How would you define 'old'?

At this stage of life, I’m going to say it’s a state of mind. When I was young I thought being a teenager was old. When I was a teenager, I thought 30 was old. When I was 30, I thought 50 was far off, and 70 was very old. I’m past all that now, and I don’t feel old in spirit, but my body sometimes feels that way.

At what age is someone old? 

Maybe in the mind of our society, anybody over 75 might be considered old. Right now I think anybody in their 90s is old, however, I know some people in their 90s who are still quite spry. I’m just not sure about this question. It's how they view life and what they feel in their mind. I know some younger people who act quite old.

2. A place you've been that's old? Israel. Tell us something about your visit there.

We visited Israel twice. It was a most meaningful trip that I wish all followers of Jesus could make. We visited other ancient places, but seeing those places where Jesus lived and walked all the days He was here on this earth was an amazing experience for me and my husband. Sailing on the sea of Galilee, imagining Jesus there on the boat, or walking on the shore talking with Peter and the other disciples were moments I will never forget.  Being baptized in the same river where Jesus was baptized. Walking around Jerusalem and seeing the temple remains, and the garden where it was believed Jesus was buried and the tomb he came out of were all awesome experiences.

On Mt. Arbel

(thought to possibly be the place where the crowd wanted to push Jesus over a cliff, 

but He slipped out of their hands.)

3. Something you miss about the 'good old days'?

I miss the innocence of youth in the 50s. That was for me. I think most of the times, no matter the time period, there is the innocence of youth and not realizing of the things going on around us in the world because we’re sheltered from them. Our memories are filtered, I think.

When were they anyway? For the most part, in our own past. However, when my husband and I were first married, I thought every day was the good old days. I was sad to see each day end as I was so happy.

4. In what way are you a 'chip off the old block'? Probably the way I think about money. I think I’m pretty careful with it. Or if you'd rather, in what way is your child a 'chip off the old block'?

5. Old fashioned, Old Testament, old timer, same old same old, old glory, good old boy, old wives tale...choose an 'old' phrase that relates to something in your life or the wider world currently and explain.

I’ll go with Old Testament, since that’s where I am in the Bible right now. Several chapters into Isaiah, one of my favorite books. Tonight we begin the study of Matthew in Bible Study Fellowship.

6. Insert your own random thought here.

My random thoughts here usually have to do with recording some bit of how I’ve spent the past few days. My friends and I went to a car show in a small town near here last Saturday and it was fun.

No!! This black one isn't from my high school days!!

My dream car!

Loudspeakers were blasting out music from our high school days as we walked around looking at vintage cars from the 50’s and 60’s. I guess as we walked around and listened, we were remembering “our” good old days from high school with the cars and the music. These old friends and I used to cruise up and down one of the main streets here in Tulsa every Friday night in the car of the oldest of us. The Camaro pictured below we cruised in after I bought my first new car.

But I have to be honest and say, not all of those days were truly good always. Being a teenager is hard sometimes, especially if you are awkward, introverted, or in anyway thought of as an outsider. But still, good memories.

Pforever Thankful Friday

My intention yesterday was to do a Thankful Thursday post. But, sad to say, Thursday got away from me and this morning, I tried to think of any thankful word beginning with an F so I could do a __________ Friday!! All I could come up with was Pforever thankful Friday! The P is silent, as in pshaw, pfft, and I don't know of any others (well, there is that very familiar Pfizer word)!! I just made up the Pforever!!! But you knew that, didn't you?

I'm so thankful and grateful and this month of September reminds me of many things I have to be thankful for, although every day there is much to be grateful about and sing praise to the Lord. But this week, September 7 was the 35th anniversary of my meeting Dear Heart, and marked the beginning of many wonderful changes to my life! So thankful for the years we had together and I'll forever be grateful to a friend who insisted I go with her to learn to two-step and that my Dear Heart was there that night, too. Not a day goes by without my remembrances of my Jay, and I'm thankful for his family and me to still be connected so closely and the love we have for each other.

Forever in my heart!

This always made us laugh!

And tomorrow marks ONE YEAR since I moved and have been living here in Tulsa. There have been many events which have transpired over this past year, and I am delighted with all the new friends I have been making and the things I have had the opportunity to be involved with. Every week just seems to fly by with activities and the lonely times are fewer and further between. 

Being here closely connected with my siblings is also good and they have been my support system and fun buddies! All that I get to do I appreciate:

My family

My church

Life Group

My neighborhood and its residents

Exercise group

Volunteer Mondays

Being a member of the ladies organization supporting the Tulsa Boys Home

Being a leader in AWANAS

Bible Study Fellowship

T-Town Uke group (which just gets more and more fun)!!

pickleball,

And resuming old friendships from over 50 years ago!

So many blessings, I can't count them.

In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. 

1 Thess. 5:18 NASB